Doc Arrogant

A good friend pointed out very astutely that Doc Alphabet was yet another arrogant male in my life telling me what is wrong with me. She encouraged me to stand up for myself, since in the therapeutic environment I'm safe, he's not going to leave, and I could use some backbone.

At issue is my relationship with Manny at the moment, which is pretty good and I'd like it to stay that way. Also I need health insurance for my prodigious medical bills each month and that is a major priority for me. So what would I like to say to Doc A? That he has no business getting in my face like that and implying that I"m a stupid idiot about money. Even if it's true, he has no right to it. It was humiliating and felt horrible.

At this moment many of my friends are gathered at a coffeeshop/bistro, where they are staging a reading from Squid's book. I wish I could be there but my kids haven't even started their homework as yet. We're not fit for going out.

Comments

[k]

I must admit there have been a few times when I have wanted to give your Doc A. a piece of my mind on your behalf. He should be thankful that geography makes that pert near unlikely!

But, anyhow, I think it would be very good for you to speak up yourself. Do remember that therapists are NOT God, just people-flawed JUST LIKE the rest of us. And just like the rest of us they occasionally need a good talking-to.

He's a big boy; he can take it. And I bet you will feel really really proud of yourself when you speak up for yourself. Go Spangle!

['mouse]

Jo. Y'know, unless there's a real need to finish "status," it is fully possible to do everything else in the divorce except status so that medical insurance can continue a long time. Especially with people who are getting along. Talk to your attorneys about it, not your therapist.

[elswhere]

You know, when you wrote the other day about how he yelled at you or scolded you or whatever about the house, I thought he really shouldn't be doing that. But then I thought, well, different things work for different people, and maybe this therapeutic style is working for you.

But now I am back to thinking he really shouldn't be doing that. You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.